Success is all in your head… What are you saying to yourself?

Posted on March 4, 2010
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One of my favorite motivational speakers, Tony Robbins, seems to whisper in my ear all the time (yeah, ok, it’s just because I have him on so many audio CDS) the same thing… TODAY IS THE DAY TO START. I know that many of us create fabulous new years resolutions which are put away by the end of January (if they last that long). This year I’m reminding you that wishes and resolutions are not the same as goals. This year, make a decision (which in latin means to ‘cut off’… as in there is no other choice) to do those things which matter most to you.

Look at your list of resolutions and decide which are really important to you and which are just fluff or wishes. Create a plan or path to succeed from this list. Chunk your activities down on a daily basis and make sure that they are all activities that will get you to your new goals.

Pay special attention to the language you chose as well. Take 10 minutes to listen to your internal dialogue to learn what you really think about your new goals, yourself and your ability to create this new reality. Make a list of some truths that you believe may be there, when they may really be all in your head…. Here are some examples of ‘truths’ that you may have running about in there…

•Money is the root of all evil
•While the cat’s away the mice will play
•I’ll always have a house and car payment
•I can never remember names
•Rich people are snobs
•I can’t even imagine what it would be like to …..
You may have a completely different list, but notice how these little sayings that we are all familiar with can really alter what we want in life.

If we believe money is the root of all evil and rich people are snobs, then how can we ever attain wealth?

If the mice will play while the cat’s away, then how will we ever trust our team, partner, employees, or any of the people we need to support us to have a successful business? We cannot possibly do it all.

If you believe you will always have a house and car payment, how will you ever be completely financially free? Many wealthy people do not have these.

So, you can never remember names? Is that really true? Do you remember the name of the first boy/girl you ever kissed? Do you remember the name of your childhood teacher? Maybe you can remember names, just they have to be important to you…. make names important – everyone’s name – important to you now!

Do you know that if you can’t imagine what it would be like to….. then you probably will never have it. For example, can you not imagine what it would be like to have enough business that you would have to have a staff of employees taking calls, processing paperwork, etc? Then I guess you’ll never know what that’s like. It is important that you be able to imagine things before they become reality.

Knowing what you are saying to yourself – what’s up there that is holding you back – is one of the primary keys to success. Now, TODAY sit down and find out. Don’t wait, don’t make this something you do later because today is a holiday and you are going to have some fun and not think about work…..

Did you notice that was another little negative signal? If you believed that last sentence then you don’t think work could be fun!

One last thing before I sign off here…. I was watching Chris Rock with my family a week or so ago and he had a little skit that said this one thing I found to be really true (imagine finding business inspiration in a comedy skit!)…. You can always tell who has a job and who has a career. People with a career never have enough time, people with jobs always have too much. If you have a career you will suddenly find it to be 5pm and wishing you had 3 more hours. If you have a job, you will find it to be 11am wishing it was already 5pm. I know I have a career because I love what I do – so much so that I was just given the evil eye for being on the computer instead of watching the parade. Which would you rather have? What will it take for you to have a career instead?

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